We As A Community Need To Buck Up Our Ideas, Improve Ourselves & Do Better...

In my 30 odd years of being on line in chat rooms and forums I don’t think I can recall a single instance when unofficial community moderation has done anything but antagonise someone further. Leave it to the actual moderators and keep your nose is out is the mantra I’ve always tried to take, although admittedly I’ve often failed at that. If it’s that bad block them and report it (although I’m the thread shown Harry had already stepped in and cleaned it up so reporting wouldn’t have been nessacary.

 

My counter is that when you're not in a great mood a "jovial" don't get taken very well, the fact you're treating their situation as a joke itself can be taken the wrong way.

You reply to Lead that-

But fundamentally I don't see much of a difference between their reply and yours from that perspective. Neither reply I'd expect the person in question being replied at to magically see "the error in their ways". In both cases if anything it just cements that the place you've rejected is not gonna take you seriously and that you're right for cutting it out.

That is how I read them at any rate.

 

For me atleast it just just comes across as clutching at straws as I've done something to get under your skin so you're desperately trying a "gotcha!" moment... But you haven't, and I'm not even ashamed of the example you gave. If I'd be swearing and balling like the OP in that thread then sure, but to use the Michael Winner example of me being snarky, rude, or personal to someone doesn't really hold weight to me, and in actual fact it's likely something I would repeat and say again in a similar circumstance. Also the insinuation that I'm fanning the flames of that individual is sort of duff too. He was told to calm down in the fashion of Michael Winter in an advert... Hardly the provocation you're making it out to be. Sometimes people need to see the ridiculousness in their abusive behaviour.

The example you gave from that OP is also the type of abuse I'm on about. Swearing, balling and being genuinely abusive... Not being able to conduct themselves or their criticism like an adult and completely embarrassing themselves at the same time by acting like a loud mouth and abusive forum member. Surely even you've got to see that isn't the way to conduct yourself or talk to people?

I'm advocating to stop people being abusive to staff and Devs first and foremost and having some etiquette in general. And secondly the smarky remarks from this thread are being done in a completely different fashion and context... I just feel I've touched a nerve with some (not all though). From that thread you use as the example of a comment (from me) saying calm down in the fashion of Michael Winner towards a highly abusive forum member. In this thread the smarky remarks were being made to someone just for discussing what they perceive to be abusive comments on the forum. I don't think the two are that comparable or in the same context.

 

again, totally uncalled for.. with over 70 years under my belt, I understand decorum and polite public discourse. This forum used to be a useful avenue for discussion and even healthy debate. But comments like yours add nothing to a discussion and to be rather honest, does not shine a very flattering light on whatever the point you are trying to put forth. What I get from it you would rather not have polite discussions, or even showing a modicum of proper courtesy but rather put out snarky one liners. I totally agree with the OP’s original post and your comment supports his points more than you know.

Edit - I see the uneccessary and uncalled for comment was removed by the poster --- maybe a move in the right direction

 

I'd consider myself to be a member of a few gaming communities.
The train simulation community is truly something else...... so thank you for this post.

 

In 2026 people are way too comfortable saying things behind a keyboard and with a level of anonymity that they wouldn’t say to a person’s face. These forums are no different than the rest of the internet.

I have frustrations as well and enjoy voicing them here in the right setting, but I just don’t understand how people can be so disrespectful just because they can hide behind a keyboard. But unfortunately that’s the world we live in today.

 

I've noticed it too.
There are people who criticize TSW in an almost mocking way, but then as soon as an addon is released, they start a race to see who can download it to their SSD first.
Lots of words and little coherence.
Clearly people who don't have much to do in life...

 

I've been on many a forum as has many people and I use to run a large forum with a team of Mods and had great fun but what I found out very quickly is that any forum is only as good as it's moderators the best forums are the ones with the least rules and petty rules at that. I've seen a lot worse forums than here but then again I've seen a lot better.

As a poster recently posted any forum member trying to moderate the forums will only get some angry it should come from the mods.

 

Agree with this almost completely, but when mods start banning/closing threads, then people start saying they are silencing the community. So it’s lose/lose, but I’d rather have a forum where it’s more respectful than one that is more open but lacks common courtesy.